“Listen carefully to my words, and let this be your consolation. Bear with me, and I will speak; then after I have spoken, mock on.” Job 21:2-3

The biblical character of Job helps us who are suffering to see themselves, God, and the world around them. Job was a righteous man. Then, Job was afflicted, lost everything that he loved. Questions of evil naturally arose; is Job’s suffering his own fault? Is it God’s fault? What now will become of Job?

As many of us are, Job was surrounded by good friends. These good friends were present for Job and offered support. Unfortunately, they, like most people in life’s unique situations, didn’t know what to say. Job did not receive any consolation from his friends. More than one mother or father who has suffered through the loss of a child has encountered horrible words from loving mouths.

This short word from the Book of Job offers nothing more than the authorization to feel and question what is going on around you. It also gives the one who is suffering permission to say to his or her comforter, “Thanks for your words, but, no thanks.” It is hard for friends and loved ones to know what to say for the simple reason that they don’t know the sufferings of another. Sometimes the best support we can give one another is just to sit silently and be present.

There is no complete answer to the question of evil, the wondering of why bad things happen to people, especially people who are “good.” We rest, along with Job, in the God who speaks out of the whirlwind and into our life. It is this God who promises that though our present suffering is real, it is not the end.

"BLUE CHRISTMAS"

You are invited to a

Special Christmas Service of Comfort and Hope

"BLUE CHRISTMAS"

December 15, 2007

Saturday at 3:00pm

The joy of Christmas can turn into a time of painful loneliness and emptiness for those suffering a loss or who are going through a difficult time. The Pastors and Stephen Ministers of Faith Presbyterian Church recognize that and invite you to attend a special Christmas service, a "BLUE Christmas" service, designed specifically for those with heavy hearts this 2007 Christmas season.

Following the service, a reception will be held in the Fellowship Hall hosted by Stephen Ministers and Deacons of Faith Presbyterian Church.

Faith Presbyterian Church

2053 East Choctaw Drive, Sierra Vista, AZ 85650

Office Phone: 520-378-9400

The church is located west of Highway 92 on East Choctaw Drive OR take Buffalo Soldier Trail, South on Cherokee Avenue, West on Choctaw Drive.

God will wipe away every tear

See, the home of God is among mortals. He will dwell with them; they will be his peoples, and God himself will be with them; he will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more.
Revelation 21:3-4

It doesn’t take much—or anything at all—to convince the readers of a blog about Perinatal loss and grief that sadness abounds in this world of ours. The loss of a child, a baby, a little one is so untimely, so wrong that the world seems so backwards and so unjust to allow such a tragedy to happen.

You hear from people, from the bible, from pastors…that God will wipe away every tear, and this is true. However, this is not an admonition to “buck up” or “get over it;” it is to say that there are tears to wipe. It is an acknowledgement that your grief is real. It is an admonition to grieve in a way that you need to grieve, specific to your needs and your experiences.

That it is God who will wipe away every tear from your eyes is also a profound insight into God’s immediate closeness; God is with you in your grief, God knows every tear you cry, God is not afraid of your tears; in fact, God also cries with you.

At the same time, the God who dwells with you is the God who makes death, mourning, crying and pain cease to be. For now, these things are with us, but then they will no longer be.

God dwells with you, for you are God’s own child. Cry, weep, sob, grieve in the way that you need; it is God who will wipe away every tear.

Like those who lift infants to their cheeks…

God tells the prophet Hosea, “I was to them like those who lift infants to their cheeks.^* I bent down to them and fed them” (Hosea 11:4). God’s relationship with creation is like a parent who loves a child. God is like a father who tenderly lifts an infant to his cheek. God is like a mother who has bent down to feed her child.

The language and imagery that Hosea uses to describe God’s relationship to Israel, God’s beloved child, is the same kind of language we use when we talk about our beloved child or children. We lift infants to our cheeks, kissing and smelling their heads. We bend down to feed our little ones, caring for their every need. We weep and mourn when we suffer their absence or loss.

As a parent, God feels for God’s children as you feel for your child. It is a bond that can never be broken. Throughout the Prophets, of which Hosea is one, God mourns deeply for the loss of God’s child, Israel. God wonders, “How can I give you up? How can I hand you over? How can I let you be devastated? How can I let you be destroyed?” At the thought of losing Israel, God’s heart recoils. So do our hearts recoil at the loss of a child.

The image of God as a parent offers a connection, a relation to you as a parent, especially as a parent who has suffered the loss of a child. You can relate to God’s heartache; God’s heartache relates to you. You understand what it means to have your heart recoil, to have your heart turn and shrink within you.

And yet, you are also a child, God’s child, one whom God lifts to God’s cheeks, one to whom God bends down to feed. As you weep, God weeps with you because you are God’s own child. Your grief matters to God. God knows your loss and feels your heartache. God isn’t afraid of your pain for God has felt that very pain. God is with you in your loss.

She had heard about Jesus, and came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, for she said, "If I but touch his clothes, I will be made well."

Healing happens in many different ways. This woman had been bleeding for twelve years. She was probably a social outcast, unemployed and unable to have children. Her pain was very physical, the blood a reminder of her hurt and pain. She had spent all her money trying to find a doctor who could help her, but no relief came. It seemed the world had given up on her.

Sometimes we're willing to trying anything when we feel desperate. She had heard about Jesus and was willing to take a risk in approaching him. The woman's hemorrhage made her untouchable, but she ran into the crowd to connect with Jesus, hoping that his power and compassion could make her well.

She ran into the crowd on faith. She was out of money and connections, so bold desperation was her last hope. Her healing was swift and physical. Sometimes healing is gradual and emotional or quiet and relational. Grief and pain can separate us from God and the people we love, but it is never too late to reach out for someone's touch and compassion. Surrounding yourself with people who love and care for you can help you grieve in healthy ways. The healing touch of Jesus can come from prayer or reading stories of healing in the bible.

Jesus knows your pain - he came to earth to share our emotions and experiences more fully. May this woman remind you that you are not alone and that healing and hope are a part of your future.

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you." - Jeremiah 1:5

Jeremiah is wondering why God wants him to be a prophet. God wants Jeremiah to know that even before Jeremiah was conceived, God knew him and loved him.

These words can be of some comfort to a mother grieving the loss of a pregnancy. You might feel as if you were the only one who ever knew and will ever know your unborn child. These thoughts can be extremely lonely and sad.

Here in Jeremiah, God tells all of us that we were known by heaven long before our conception or birth. Whether or not we breathe on this earth, we are part of God's plan and loved by God. When tragedy strikes, it can seem as though God decides to take something away from us, but pain and loss are never God's intentions for this world.

When life was created, God knew that free will and the presence of evil would challenge every happiness and perfection in mysterious ways. God knew we would want to shake our fists at heaven and demand an explanation or apology when life is unfair.

If it feels like God is silent, perhaps He is silent because He is listening and waiting to receive everything you will unload onto him. Cast your burdens, shake your fists and cry your tears. God wants to take your pain and to grieve with you. God knows better than anyone that death and pain can leave us feeling broken.

By inviting God to weep and mourn with you, He can begin to mold the aftermath of sadness and loss into a hopeful future. This is what God does best.

Remember that God knows and loves your baby too, and trusting that means you are never really alone.